Bollywood actor tells the podcast of dear daughter that he sometimes feels ugly

Kalki Koechlin has acted in the success of Bollywood box office, modeling for international beauty brands and appeared on the cover of Vogue India. But in a world that puts such a cousin in looking young, he says sometimes he feels “ugly.”

“We live in a social world (media) that has distorted beauty,” says the actor, writer and producer of the BBC World Service daughter podcast. “He has deceived us to think that beauty is a certain size, a certain color or a certain way.”

The half -hour program presents their children’s letters, in which the advice and life lessons that care, and a conversation with the host of the Namulanta Kombo program transmit.

Kalki’s letter is aimed at his five -year -old daughter. In him, she offers tips to navigate pressures around body image and describe the ways in which unrealistic beauty standards have personally affected it.

The actor, who lives in Goa in India with his husband, the Israeli musician, Hershberg and his daughter, says that the inspiration for the letter came when, a day after school, the girl went to her to tell her that she did not feel pretty.

“When they are so young, they are so perfect and you think: ‘Oh my God. How is it possible that you can think you are not pretty?!'” He says in the podcast.

In the letter, Kalki, who is the host of another bbc podcast, my Indian life, writes that he also feels “ugly, despite the fact that the world constantly tells me that I am beautiful.”

She advises her daughter that “beauty standards will change throughout her life, so she has not much value for what society considers beautiful today.”

“Remember that your scars, your wrinkles, your eyes, your lips, your hands, your feet, your hair, your skin are here as witnesses of your beautiful life. They are here to age with you and take you through ups and downs. They are your friends for life,” he writes.

Born in Potoucherry, India, of French parents, Kalki describes herself as an “introverted Geek” while growing. When he was a teenager, he says, he felt uncomfortable with his appearance, and following a race in camera only intensified those feelings.

“Becoming a celebrity, having your face out there and being in front of the camera … there is another layer of self -awareness that comes into progress.”

Working in the film industry, he says he experienced a particular pressure to maintain a youth appearance. Once, he says, a producer even suggested during lunch that receives dermal fillings for his wrinkles.

“He said: ‘Everything you need is a small filling for your laughter lines.’ I smiled and said: ‘Well, it is better to stop smiling so much.’ So I think my approach has been dealing with him with humor.”

Kalki says this happened when he was 30 years old and that “he had already lived enough life so as not to be affected.”

“But I know that this 20 -year -old is told this and that they feel the pressure of going and changing their face very early.”

Kalki says he believes that this pressure worsens by the emergence of social networks. “We all analyze (ourselves) and we all have these filters.” And in her letter, she shares her fear of trying to protect her daughter from such scrutiny.

He jokes that he even wondered about moving to Australia when he learned about the country’s plans to ban smartphones for children under 16. “This is how my mother-corebro is working! “

Kalki is not the only celebrity that talks about the pressure of looking young in women in the public eye.

Stranger Things Millie Bobby Brown actor Holders made Earlier this month, to call journalists who have criticized the way he has aged.

“The fact that adult writers spend their time dissecting my face, my body, my choices are disturbing,” said the 21 -year -old in a three -minute video on her Instagram page.

Dear daughter Podcast is a creation of Namulanta Kombo, a mother of Nairobi in a search to create a “life manual” for her daughter, through the advice of parents around the world.

Each episode has a guest who reads a letter they have written to their children, their future children, or the children they never had, with the advice, life lessons and personal stories they wish to convey.

In one of the episodes of the current season, Bridgerton’s actor, attached Andoh, tells his three children to trust his instincts. In another, the presenter of the Documentary of Wildlife Rae Wynn-Grant offers advice on how to survive doubts and encounters with bears.

Dear daughter,

A day after school, you told me: “Maman I’m not pretty.” You were only four years old. I panicked and immediately replied: “What do you mean, of course you are pretty, you are as beautiful as a butterfly, as bright as the sun.” And you continued to say angrily: “I am not, I am not.”

In retrospect, I would like to have heard and have fun enough to ask you why you didn’t feel pretty. You will see that you also make mistakes, my own insecurities and I need to protect it, and I did not allow you the space to feel what you were feeling. Do not let others decide who you are. Not even me. You have much more experience in being you than anyone. And no one else can be better than you.

Fortunately, I have second opportunities to be a better mother, and when a few weeks later you said “I don’t like it”, I stopped my impulse to tell you what you were and heard. There was some silence and then opened about how you were having a bad time with other children at school.

I thought about how to make sure that you know that beauty is not deep skin. The truth is that sometimes you will feel ugly. Sometimes I feel ugly, although the world constantly tells me that I am beautiful. And now, I have made a point to tell you how beautiful you are, not when you feel bad about how you look, and not when you are dressed better, but when you are being the best versions of you.

As you age, I know that you will not always believe that you are beautiful because we live in a social world that has distorted beauty, which has deceived us to think that beauty is a certain size, a certain color or a certain way. These beauty standards will change throughout their lives, so it has no much value for what society currently considers beautiful.

Remember that it is complete and that if you start separating your nose or your hairy eyebrows or your ears not quite correct, you will begin to feel ugly, but that is just because you are forgetting everything. An elephant is a beautiful animal, but it recongins it and has a long and wrinkled nose, strange side eyes, huge outstanding ears and a great fat stomach.

Remember that your scars, your wrinkles, your eyes, your lips, your hands, your feet, your hair, your skin are here as witnesses of your beautiful life, they are here to age with you and take you through ups and downs, they are your friends for life.

Dear daughter, do you know when I will stop loving you? Never.

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