Teddi Mellencamp wonders if Edwin Arroyave’s divorce was a ‘mistake’

Real Housewives of Beverly Hills alum Teddy Mellencamp she was not always firm in her decision to divorce Edwin Arroyave.

“We went to couples therapy and it was announced to me that I’m an introvert, and it was shocking news to everyone, even though I’ve been saying this my whole life,” Mellencamp, 43, said during Thursday’s 16th episode of her “Diamonds in the Rough” podcast. “I’m naturally an introvert, so I enjoy my alone time (and) I need to recharge.”

Despite finding solace in quiet moments, she was unprepared for the increased loneliness that comes with divorce. (Mellencamp split from Arroyave, 47, in the fall of 2024 and filed for divorce that November.)

“There are moments that I feel now when I feel really lonely and I don’t know if those feelings of loneliness mean that I’ve made a mistake or if it’s just something I have to get used to and this is a new change in my life,” Mellencamp asked, fighting back tears. “Oh my god I’m so embarrassed I’m getting emotional but it’s such a confusing part of it all.

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She continued: “Should you rise to power or should you give it (time)?”

Mellencamp podcast cohost, Erika Jayne — whose personal life hit the headlines in 2020 following her split from her now disbarred lawyer Thomas Girardi — signed up to share her support.

“He’s in a mess right now and it’s very fresh and very hard,” Jayne, 53, said on Thursday’s episode. “I feel for her because none of this is easy and picking yourself up and even being on the podcast today talking about it. You know, Teddy, you need to take a break. If you hadn’t said you were feeling lonely, I’d be afraid you were.”

Mellencamp feels he is in “constant pain” that he “tries to fake (his) way” every day.

“I’ve talked about it in therapy, but it’s almost like I’m drawn to another chaotic situation,” Mellencamp explained. “I don’t want to reveal too much about my parents or anything like that, but obviously my father (John Mellencamp) was a rock star. He met some girl in the Rainbow Room and she was my mom and they had kids (while he was already married. Like, everything was like — a show.”

Teddi continued: “There have been many ups and downs in my life and my only goal was… to give my children stability. I don’t know if it’s the loneliness or feeling scared, (but) I also don’t feel like I’m good enough, like all those things.”

Teddy and Arroyave share daughters Slate, 12, and Dove, 4, as well as son Cruz, 10. (Arroyave is also father to daughter Isabella, 15, from a previous relationship.)